Supporting Women

Friday, 18 March 2016

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about what being a woman means.

I've been thinking about how lucky we are now, in 2016, that we have a choice. We are able to vote. We can work if we choose. Have a family if we wish.  We can be ourselves, with no restrictions.



Why is it then that women are still being torn down? Not by men, but by other women?

It is nearly 100 years after women stood together and won the right to vote, but instead of standing together and supporting each other, women belittle each other.

I don't know if it is because I'm older now or because I'm a mum, but I'm noticing it more and more.


As a mum, I have noticed other mums in the playground whisper about another because she hadn't put makeup on for the school pickup. 

As a woman on a night out, I've seen other women whisper and glare at a girl because she is dressed differently.

As a teacher, I've heard other female teachers comment on the one teacher who left to have children instead of further her career.

As a mum, I've sat in baby classes and seen that one mum get a dirty look because she choose bottle over breast.

As a mum, I've felt the sting of criticism because I had a C-section with both my babies instead of a natural birth.

As a mum, I've been on the receiving end of horrible comments because I mentioned how I love my stretch marks and didn't use creams to get rid of them.


There are so many more examples. The point I'm trying to make though is that I think it should stop.



Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not perfect.  I've commented on others or given a look when I disagreed with someone's choice. but that is exactly what it is. A choice.


We should build each other up. Support each other.  I believe that all those years ago, brave women fought for us to be able to have a choice and do what we desired to do.

I want to teach my daughter that she can be whoever she wants to be, do what ever she wants to do without worrying what others think.



From now on, I'm going to make more of an effort to support other women. I hope you do too.

Keep Calm and Carry On Linking Sunday

26 comments:

  1. A fantastic post! The make up bit made me chuckle. Who has the time to put on makeup in the morning! I'm lucky if I manage to get dressed, lol! I always look like I've been dragged through a hedge backwards. I think folk are used to it now so they don't talk. ;)

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    1. Thank you!
      I know, it's crazy! I'm the same as you. I always look like I've been dragged through a hedge too!
      Xx

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  2. Well said! As a mum of two boys I don't want them to see women tearing other women apart as it takes away all the hard work I put in to show them how to respect women & girls

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  3. Women use bitching as a bonding mechanism. I think we're all guilty of it to some extent. It's not a healthy positive way to behave though. Great post xx

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    1. You're right. I think it can be way of bonding with other women.
      Xx

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  4. Goodness it sounds like you've come across some very judgemental women! I've given up caring what anyone else thinks about my lack of make up/unbrushed hair/clothes and it's liberating! #KCACOLS

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    1. Haha! I have!
      I think that's brilliant :) I think I should try to care a bit less about what others think, but I can't help it!
      Xx

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  5. So true, you see it so differently with men in the workforce, they are much more likely to help each other out and mentor younger men than women in the same industries. We really need to learn to support each other.

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  6. I think Nia has ht the nail on the head here, bitching can be a sort of bonding thing with women, but it can be very dangerous too. I like to keep out of the bitchy stuff as much as possible as I hate to be on the receiving end myself. Respect is more helpful as a character trait and I like your objectives. #KCACOLS

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  7. Crikey, you know some judgemental people! Is having to put make up on for the school run a thing? I frequently forget to shave my legs before swimming class these days. God knows what people are saying about me (and God cares. I don't) Totally agree we should stop tearing each other down. It's one of the biggest barriers to equality, I think. #KCACOLS

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    1. Haha! I really have! The makeup thing was a real thing that happened at my son's first primary school!
      Xx

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  8. I agree with what others have said about bitching almost being a bonding thing for some woman....I had to have c-sections and walked away from my teaching career to be a stay at home Mum so I have been on the receiving end of what you talk about. I also see a lot of it on the playground but refuse to join in but the result of this is that I am often pushed to the edge, which does't bother me as I would rather not hang around with negative people whether they be man or woman. We need more positivity and we should be celebrating each other not tearing everyone down. Great post and very well said! :- )#KCACOLS

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  9. Yes! I completely get this! It really frustrates me that women judge one another so harshly. One of the biggest things for me is work. Now I work, but I work at home and I feel like that is exactly write for me at this point in my life. I've worked before and after, full time, pregnancy and birth and I took longer off than most mums of children are able to, yet I'm told I was wrong to make those choices even though they were right for me at the time? It bugs me so much! And the c-section thing, I am with you there too. #kcacols

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  10. Very well written post and agree 100%. I too have witnessed most of the points you made and it is such a shame. We should support each other x

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  11. i totally agree with you.. i think we should help each other and stand up for women, esp mothers... i think people who put you down aren't happy with them selves.. or there is a touch of jealousy.. lovely post x

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  12. So well said - I love this post and totally agree with you. #KCACOLS

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  13. I totally agree with you! I think lot of women forget how far we have come with the free choices we can make. Plus we are all individuals who all have different voices, we should be embracing it. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday

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  14. Very well said, I can't believe how women can be towards other women. People moan about men and others being mean but when you tear down other women it's just as bad x

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  15. Could not agree more! This is the second post I have ready today along the same vein and its upsetting that we can not all support each other. Motherhood is not easy, careers are not easy, being young free and single is not easy (you get my drift). We can help each other through it if we try xx

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  16. Well said and very true. Gossiping, bitching whatever the term, its horrid. The thing is catching it when it happens and stamping it out. Its hard when people want to draw you in and act like its acceptable. Its not and raising it like you have helps us remember that. Good for you:)

    Mainy

    #KCACOLS

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  17. Spot on! I know exactly what you mean - women are terribly unsupportive of each other (unless you fall into their clique).
    I think I'm quite lucky as I do live in an area surrounded by amazing women, so in my circles this just doesn't happen, thankfully. But I DO see it when I step out of my local area/circles.
    That said, at 35, I think I've developed quite a thick skin, and genuinely, I don't think other women bother me anymore. The point is though - we shouldn't have to develop a thick skin. We shouldn't feel the need for armour with each other. We are all exactly the same at the end of the day!
    great post,
    Anna x

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  18. It's still such an issue isn't it. It seems we can't just celebrate one another and be happy about our differences. We seem very competitive in nature and there are such better ways to use our energy. Great post

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  19. I agree that people should be more tolerant & less judgemental, but I have to be honest & say I have never really agreed that this is a specifically female thing. I do think that men & women often have specfic & different ways of doing these things, and women on average speak and use vastly more words than men every day, so it would sound like women are doing it more, but I think men do it in their way too. Humans are competitive by nature, and that leads to this type of behaviour, unfortunately. I think that, actually, if I was to consider who I would deem the most judgemental and intolerant and catty people I have known, there would be more men than women in that list! #KCACOLS

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  20. Many, many moons ago, your Grandma told me that I could do anything and be anything I wanted to be. It still encourages me when I make choices today. Xxxx

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