An open letter to the man who called me "FAT"

Friday, 9 October 2015

An open letter to the man who called me "FAT"

Dear Sir,

I would like to thank you for drawing attention to my weight today. If it wasn't for you yelling "Alright Fatty?" out of your van window, I would not have noticed that I am overweight.

I am, as you clearly pointed out, bigger than I should be.

I would also like to thank you for beeping as you shouted so that others nearby could also notice my size.

However, what I didn't get a chance to tell you, as you sped off down the road, is this:

  • Yes, I AM overweight
  • I am trying to do something about it
  • I LOVE food

Also, I didn't get to tell you is this:

  • I am a mother of two wonderful children
  • I have a gorgeous husband who I love madly
  • I have a family that I love with all my heart, who love me just the same
  • I am ME

But,  most importantly, what I wanted to say is this:

Yes, I am not happy with the way I look, but one day I hope that I will be a confident woman, wife and mother.

What you did today while I was pushing my daughter home from the shops says more about you than it does me.

I truly hope that one day you will be as happy with your life as I am in mine.
A Cornish Mum


  1. What an AHOLE! So true - What Susie says about Sally, says a lot more about Susie than it says about Sally! What is so wrong in that mans life that he feels the need to shout at and belittle a complete stranger? He must be terribly depressed and hate himself! Good post, love your attitude! #PicknMix

  2. What a pr1ck! Good for you hun, who cares what that moron thinks - he'll get his comeuppance! xx #PicknMix *Yells - 'White van man t0sser!'* xx

  3. What a moron. It says a lot more about him than it does about you. Anybody who thinks that it is okay to do that to another human being is clearly not right in the head, lets hope that he doesn't a partner or children who have to put up with that kind of rubbish!

  4. You are a beautiful young woman whose generous soul shines out through every pore. I hope nobody ever does this to a member of his family. I shudder to think what might have happened to someone experiencing an emotional crisis. I am so proud that we are related. Xxxxxx

    1. Awww, thank you Aunty Linda 😘

  5. Thank you all for your comments :)
    It took a lot of effort not to get upset by it, like I normally would. I did get embarrassed, but then realised it was his problem and not mine.
    Karma will sort it!

  6. Did the van have any sign writing on?? I might know who it was. I'll sort them out sis! You're amazing the way you are, don't let idiots put you down. Xxx

  7. How bloody rude! I was called fat today as well as the C word in front of my children in the car by a man and woman who walked in front of my car and were in the wrong. I didn't even come close to running them over and they made one of the boys cry - furious isn't even the word for how I felt!
    I didn't swear back though and set a good example for the boys by ignoring them though I was shaking! I so hope karma sorts this type of person out!
    Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix
    Stevie xx

  8. Oh Hun, a great response to such a horrid situation xxxx #picknmix

  9. Oh what an absolute idiot!!! You should be proud that you didn't yell back at him. Well I firmly believe what goes around comes around and you are right, it says far more about him than you. Cor I am so angry, goodness knows how you must be feeling xxx

  10. Uh, I'm so sorry you had this happen. People who yell at strangers out of their car windows are really not worth paying attention to. Plus, you can take steps to becoming more healthy and you won't be overweight anymore but he'll almost certainly *always* be a twat!


  11. Oh hun that guy is n idiot!! Big looser!! Who cares what this idiot think!! You should just ignore him as he obviously doesn't know anything more interesting to do with his life. Nobody has to tell you if you are overweight or not and if you are happy in the way you are it is the most important thing. Of course if you would like to be healthier that is another thing. It will be your own decision. You will do it for you and not for others! Remember you are beautiful!! ;-) x

  12. What an idiot that bloke is - good on you for ignoring him. AS you quite rightly say - you have a beautiful family that loves you for being you! Sending you hugs. #picknix