What Kind of Parent Are You?

Monday, 18 January 2016

What Kind of Parent Are You?

This is a question that I've been wondering about for a while. What kind of parent am I?

As a stay at home mum, I am very lucky to be able to spend a lot of quality time with Dot. This means not only playing, but teaching her things like new words.

It began with the normal things, like 'cup', 'Daddy', 'car', but I now find myself looking through books and pointing things out to her to get her to repeat. She can now say about a dozen words. Obviously not properly, as she is only just a year old, but they are clear enough.

Now, Dot is a little mimic and copies what you say straight away (in her own way) and so I figure it's encouraging her speech and vocabulary, but am I being a pushy mum? Have I started hothousing her?  I don't have flashcards, but I do have little books!

The other day on BBC's Daily Politics, it was revealed that David Cameron said that "every child needs a tiger mum."

Is this true? I myself don't agree with that.

I don't like the idea of being strict and harsh on your children when it comes to learning. I've always thought that the more fun it is, or that they think it is, the more they would probably want to learn. Especially if they struggle with school, learning or just don't want to.

Now I know I'm not too strict. In fact my husband says I'm too soft. I have been labelled something else though. My very loving son and husband call me a 'Smother'!
For anyone that has seen The Goldbergs on E4, you will know what I mean(!), but for those that don't know, it is a very involved mum who almost over-loves!

That I don't mind! I love having cuddles and calling my son embarrassing names, such as scrumptious! (Which let me tell you, an 11 year old isn't very fond of!) but I also like to 'helicopter' and keep an eye on everything. (My mum calls it micro-managing!)
I need to know what everyone is doing, how they are getting on, and I kind of like to be in control of situations, which any parent can tell you, is sometimes impossible!

So, the kind of parent it appears I am is, a helicoptering, Smother who likes to keep an eye on everything, but still have time for cuddles and fun, whilst making time for learning opportunities.

I think I can live with that!

So, what kind of parent are you?

My Kid Doesn't Poop Rainbows


  1. I have a strict side as I believe that I want my kids to be raised knowing that they should respect their parents and not feel entitled to everything. But I also have a soft side that makes sure to let my kids know that I love and adore them. I hug them and tell them I love them and laugh with them....sometimes this occurs especially after I feel like I have gotten too upset with them. I have 3 all a year apart so it can be very trying on a mother's nerves sometimes. I think as a parent we all just have to find a balance that works for us and the children. I asked my son the other night (after I got upset about a hair brush missing) if I was a bad mommy. He looked at me and without hesitation said "No mommy, we all just have a bad day sometimes" and hugged me. He's 6...he's an awesome sole. #fartglitter 💌Trista

  2. Aw, I bet they secretly love it. Maybe deep..deep down :-)
    I'm pushing for independence with my tot at the moment. The idea of him being able to play independently and solve a few problems for himself really appeals. So far no dice but I'll keep on keeping on....and stealing kisses and cuddles when I can.


  3. Thats sounds like a pretty good parent to me :) I often wonder where the line is when it comes to being a pushy parent! I sometimes wonder because I show an interest in Monkey's nursery reports that I am being just that! At 3.5 why have they not realised he is left handed?!! I went to the toy fair yesterday and ended up having a great conversation with the people from Stablio about gross motor skills. - Maybe I should just accept it? LOL. :) Great question to ask, I think this will be on my mind for a while. #fartglitter