Why I'm No Longer Comparing

Monday, 8 August 2016

As a parent, it's really easy to fall in to the trap of comparing your child with others but a lot harder to  get out of.

It is a trap that until recently, I was firmy stuck in, especially with Dot. She has a cousin who is only 6 1/2 weeks younger than her, so I find it really hard to not compare their development.

I have to say, Dot is a clever girl. At 20 months, she can already count to 10 and can understand and speak quite well. She can also be very independent and 'wilful'!

This past week, I've been trying to potty train Dot. She was showing some signs of readiness and had successfully used the potty a few times before so I thought we were good to go.

However, I was completely wrong. Dot had a lot of accidents, and after three days, she was really tearful and tired of using the potty. The forth day ended in tears and hugs (not just for Dot!)

I felt so bad for trying and putting her through it, but I definitely learnt something. I assumed that because Dot has reached other milestones earlier that she should do other things at an early age too. I am happy to admit that I was wrong.

Two days after the 'traumatic event', we have put the training on hold. Dot is back to her happy and wilful self and I am more relaxed as a mum. I am no longer going to compare Dot to others.

Dot will get there at her own pace and I am no longer going to push her. I am quite happy for her to lead me.